So here’s the deal… I have recently become a single mum. And amongst all the tears, tantrums, changes, adjustments and massive upheavals, the most important thing I have learned is that you have to be willing to do it for yourself.
When I was in a partnership, it was easy to make excuses for things, ‘I’m to tired,’ ‘its been a busy week,’ ‘I’ll focus on that next week.’ I would put things off and pretend that I was doing enough and that there was plenty of time to do other things. I was forever making plans and goals, but not working to achieve anything.
Now that its just me and my son, I am realising that there is no-one who is going to save me, no-one else to rely on, no-one who will pick up the slack and no-one is going to do it for me. If I am going to achieve anything in this lifetime, it’s going to be because I worked for it and more importantly, I did it for myself.
Now don’t get me wrong, this isn’t easy. If I didn’t find myself being a single mum to a toddler and having to provide and set an example for him, I would probably still be waiting for someone else to make my dreams come true. But the reality is, you can never rely on anyone else to make your dreams come true. Self worth and achievement comes from within.
Previously, I was a stay at home mum to Odin. We would get up, have breakfast and head off to the gym for a couple of hours to workout. Then Odin and I would play outside or do the shopping until it was his nap time. Then I would clean the house and study a bit, before he woke up. In the afternoon we would take walks go for scooter rides and just enjoy our afternoons. I would then cook dinner, daddy would come home and I would be in bed by 9:30pm, ready for another day. But things have changed drastically since then.
This is a look at what my days look like now:
5:00am wake up and work on my blog and social media before Odin is awake
6:00am get Odin up ready for child care and breakfast
7:00am out the door, drop Odin off at child care and hit the gym for 45min
8:30 start work
5:30 finish work and pick up Odin
6:30 dinner and start bedtime routine
8:00pm Odin is in bed and I start studying, blogging and social media
11:30pm exhausted! Time for sleep
This has been a major adjustment for both myself and Odin, he isn’t coping well at child care, because he is used to being at home with me all day. But unfortunately I don’t have a choice, I have to work full time to pay the bills. However, I work everyday towards my dream of having financial freedom and running my own business. No-one else is going to do this for me, I get up everyday and work my butt off! I know I will achieve my goals!